Greetings and Welcome, Friends!

If you are anything like many of us here on Long Island, you are craving to feel healthier and happier. You want more ease and joy in your relationships, busy, finances, career, spirituality, emotions and mind. Perhaps you want to feel more peaceful, purposeful or passionate in your daily life.

These are specific areas of well-being that we take a great interest in at The Center for Self-Growth. Our mission is to provide health and wellness resources and support to the neighboring community on Long Island at our Setauket location. Now, we want to take that a step further and reach more people with as many helpful and free resources as we can through this blog.

We have been able to reach the community through one-on-one psychotherapy and life coaching with Beth Miller, health and wellness workshops open to the public led by a variety of topic-specific doctor's and professionals, on-going positive energy support groups, detoxification groups, our monthly newsletter, and more. Today, we are proud to add this blog to the list of ways that we strive to positively contribute to the community.

We plan to post a variety of health and happiness related articles, thoughts, meditations, inspiration and resources, as well as upcoming news about The Center and the people that make The Center for Self Growth an environment for learning and living your best life.

It's never too late to start to "think, feel and be happier." We will do our best to serve you with information and resources to make that possible.

Thanks for visiting our new blog, we hope to see you back here very soon!

PRESS RELEASE: “A Small Space for Big Ideas"

The Center for Self-Growth invites the public to positively participate in more ways than one.

The Center for Self-Growth (CSG) invites wellness practitioners with “big ideas” who are interested in facilitating a workshop or group, in hopes of enhancing the lives and learning’s of the local community through stimulating ideas and forward-thinking. This summer, the CSG will offer a variety of health and happiness workshops including positive energy groups, detoxification groups, emotional freedom technique (EFT) healing circles, Feng Shui workshops, psychic and angel therapy, hypnobirthing and more! Conscious parenting, positive relationships, financial coaching, law of attraction, and healing cancer are scheduled for fall.

For over a year and half, the CSG, located in Setauket, has become Suffolk County’s link between health and wellness practitioners and the people in the community who are interested in personal and professional development. Additionally, the CSG, “where Long Islander’s go to grow,” is the home of the combined psychotherapy and life coaching practice of the center’s director, Beth Miller.

“The concept of The Center as a ‘small space for big ideas’ is a true calling to the growing community that we have created over the past year and a half and continue to welcome on a daily basis,” says Beth Miller, Director of the CSG and Licensed Psychotherapist and Certified Life Coach. “We see ourselves as a gathering place where people come to learn how to live their best lives. We are also the link between wellness practitioners and the local community. Most of us have not be taught the skills and tools to really live lives that feel good and are successful in all areas. The Center aims to fill in that gap and teach people how to think, feel, and be happier. With all of the recent negativity in the news, it’s exciting to be a part of something that is positive, inspiring and continually growing and I think that is why people have been receiving us so well.”

The director of the center, Beth Miller, is a Psychotherapist and Life Coach whose vision to create a place where Long Islanders can learn how to become healthier and happier was realized in January of 2008. Steadily thriving one and a half years later, the CSG remains passionate about inspiring personal and professional growth, in addition to extending support to the community and teaching the resources and techniques that are monumental in learning to live happier, more fulfilling and less stressful lifestyles.

The CSG is dedicated to welcoming new ideas and workshop facilitators, as well as offering these events to the local community in affordable and economically conscious ways. To learn more about the CSG, visit www.thecenterforselfgrowth or email thecenterforselfgrowth@gmail.com .

About Beth Miller
Beth Miller is the founder of The Center for Self Growth and a licensed psychotherapist and certified life coach. Beth hosts positive energy groups and EFT healing circles, as well as works with individual clients one-on-one using a unique, intuitive therapy she created that combines deep-healing psychotherapy with action-oriented life coaching. She specializes in removing old subconscious programming, allowing people to effectively realize the lives they desire now. For individual appointments with Beth Miller, call 631-327-0090 or milly@optonline.net.

INSPIRATION

"The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don't want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people!"
- Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

"IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME..."

A FREE ADVICE COLUMN TO THINK, FEEL, AND BE HAPPIER

If you are anything like me, you want to release all of the blocks that keep you stuck from moving forward.

As a therapist and coach that specializes in finding and eliminating blocks,I have become simply fascinated by how our "issues" repeat themselves. Our themes, built upon early-life programming get locked into our subconscious, and keep repeating until we become conscious of them and make some changes. And because your subconscious is running the show about 90% of your day, it is so important to make sure that your old programming is not getting in the way of what you want in life going forward.

HOW PAST PROGRAMMING KEEPS YOU STUCK

Some past programming is fabulous and is responsible for your current successes. Beliefs and programming like "making money is easy and I am really good at it" will enable you to be abundant in these areas.

However, there are those areas, big or small, that you just can't seem to have any success with, such as nail-biting, inability to lose weight, constant bickering with your partner, or always feeling left out by friends. What about your phobia of flying, working hard but never having enough money, never feeling good enough, feeling empty when not in a relationship, or chronic worry that gnaws at you?

Regardless of the size of the issue, any limitation can seriously get in the way of our daily happiness and ease. We are often unaware of this programming, though, and think that this is "just how life is."

CAN YOU REALLY HAVE EMOTIONAL FREEDOM FROM OLD PROGRAMMING FOR GOOD? If we can find the issue in the subconscious, we can eliminate it with "EFT"- Emotional Freedom Technique- a tapping procedure used to clean out the old energy blocks that are causing your current problem while talking about the problem. I use EFT to search around your belief system like a flashlight, finding the programming that is blocking your success in any area, and eliminate it for good.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE EMOTIONAL FREEDOM?

I have seen some fairly amazing results with EFT, sometimes bordering on miraculous and bizarre. Remember, an energy block in one area of life blocks ALL areas of potential ease and abundance. But I'm biased. I am in love with this technique because it is truly incredible and I use it in almost ALL of my sessions with clients these days. But here is what some have had to say:

Dear Beth: I have struggled for years with alcohol abuse, an early childhood trauma, not feeling good enough, and anger. Literally, those issues are gone or nearly gone. Thank you so much, A

Dear Beth: I have been tapping on my impatience (something I have dealt with for the last 15 years)...and I have been feeling a peace I cannot describe.. It has also worked for headaches, and leg pain. You were able to get to the root of the issue a lot quicker than if I was to do it on my own. Thank you, J

Dear Beth: The chocolate at work was a huge problem for me and it has been two months since I have eaten it now at work. I also used EFT 2 weeks ago to attract "wealth", and I received a $900 check in the mail that I was not expecting.. Love and Peace, C

Dear Beth: ..it's kind of like vaccinating yourself...I would definitely recommend EFT, for ANY issue... I think EFT helps to release these stored feelings in ways that just talking about it doesn't always fully release. I think EFT is a great tool for everyone to learn of all ages and with all different issues. - CE

HOW TO GET SOME EFT HEALING INTO YOUR LIFE

FREE: go to www.emofree.com to learn more about self healing EFT

ATTEND: The Next EFT HEALING CIRCLE with Beth Miller: June 24

OR SCHEDULE: A private session with Beth Miller 631-327-0090

Tips for Navigating Through Some of Life's Inevitable Roadblocks

Regardless of how much we try to plan and foresee what the future will bring, most of the time, life takes its natural course anyway. This often means inevitable bumps in the road. When this happens, there is no need to steer completely off course, instead, try some of the tips below, be patient, and trust the process. It is all part of some grander plan, and in time, you will be able to connect the dots.

1. Find a neutral sounding board.

2. Get support, don't go it alone.

3. Be patient, and trust the process.

4. Re-connect with Nature.

5. Channel the negative energy into something positive.

Lastly, remember not to get too hard on yourself. It's easy to feel off balanced when times are uncertain. When you release the tension in healthy ways, you are able to react appropriately and diffuse the chaos. The best way you can ensure that you are living your great life, is to take healthy actions in the midst of turmoil.

Be well,
DeAnna Lynn Englezos
Program Manager, The Center for Self Growth

More info on DeAnna
www.CreateYourGreatLife.blogspot.com

SEXUAL ABUSE: How The Strange Silence About This Epidemic Issue Blocks Us All

Since The Feel Better Letter(our monthly newsletter) is meant to help you feel good, it may seem surprising that I am highlighting such a difficult and upsetting issue. Sexual abuse and talk of it is rarely uplifting. Stick with this article, though, and I promise to give you some good things to feel about by it's end.

Years ago, my entire psychotherapy practice focused on trauma survivors and I became an expert in treating sexual abuse and trauma of all kinds. So it was expected that EVERY client I treated had been sexually abused. However, these days I have clients coming through my door for every reason under the sun, although almost all issues boil down to simply wanting to feel happier in life.

So imagine my surprise when I discovered that a startling portion of current clients, regardless of why they initially sought out therapy with me, have had a least one experience with being sexually abused in their past. I have turned this issue over in mind many times and I ask very deep questions about why there is such a prevalence of adults hurting children sexually. I ask "what happens in SO MANY adult's experience that they would find children sexually interesting?" and "why are we all so silent about such an insane issue that affects far more people than the statistics say?" In trying to make sense of it all, I have read all of the research and theories about why sexual abuse exists, and even wondered if our culture needs "lower energy experiences" to help us all grow and evolve.

My main message today is that if you have been sexually abused, DO NOT let the silence in our culture fool you. You have lots of company all around you. Sometimes I think that the silence is meant to protect us all. Perhaps we fear our whole culture would melt down if we really talked about the taboo topic of the sexual abuse of children publicly. And yet, we must, because the silence is keeping us all from the possibility of solutions.

We develop beliefs about ourselves and our world from our life experiences. Sexual abuse survivors often have beliefs about being unworthy, unlovable, not good enough, never safe, and more. These beliefs block so many of the good things that they desire and DESERVE. If you have been sexually abused, please know that there are very effective "treatments" available to heal and release those blocking beliefs. You do not have to suffer, nor suffer in silence.

So I am putting the call out there. If you want to end the silence in your own life, feel free to email me to simply make your voice heard and acknowledge that you and your experience is real. I will read all replies.

Wishing you peace, Beth milly@optonline.net

"IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME....

A free advice column to think, feel, and be happier

IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME, YOU GET IMPATIENT OR FRUSTRATED when things aren't happening as fast as you want them to. Perhaps you have a new idea and you want it to happen NOW, or you have been working on something that you desire for a while and you are getting fed up with the "process". It's easy to consider giving up or throwing the adult version a a temper tantrum and feel like life isn't "fair".

It may be helpful to remember that creating new things in your life is like planting a seed. When you plant a seed, you don't return a day after and feel upset that it hasn't sprouted into a huge vegetable garden because you accept that the process of it's growth takes time and nourishment. You have faith that, as long as you are watering it and the conditions remain right, the seed will sprout when it is exactly ready. This is no different than how you understand that a baby takes 9 months to gestate safely. Being born before that time is considered "pre-mature" because is not optimal for the baby to be thriving and independent.

This is what is called the GESTATION TIME of the creation of all things. That is to say that all creations have a period of growing to be done on an unseen plane or a growth phrase before they come forth on the physical plane. How comforting it is to remember that it is faith and patience, not pushing and needing, that allow your creation to come through in the best time and way possible.

In order to grow the seeds of your life into vibrant, strong flowers that last and are born in exactly the right season, try these steps:

PREPARING THE FOUNDATION- Just as a seed needs the proper PH and soil conditions, so do the desires that you want to come forth in your life. You must prepare your life for what you desire to come forth and make sure that it is a good time for this desire to be in your life.

NOURISHING THE SEED- When you plant a seed, you are careful to water it and give it sunlight. Without the proper caretaking, the seed and the dream will die or barely flourish. This means paying daily attention and taking daily steps to cultivate your desire, not just thinking about it once in a while and hoping it will happen.

SPROUTING AND BLOOMING- You can plant a watermelon in the autumn and hope it comes up in winter, but it probably won't be able to grow in the cold. And even if it does, it most likely won't live long. So, too, is the sprouting of your dreams. Plant them at the right time and when they bloom, don't allow worry thoughts and negative thinking to block the sunlight from helping them thrive. Stand back and allow, pull the weeds of negative thinking and worry that the good "won't last", and enjoy the fruits of your patience. Remember that there may be a much wiser force that is co-creating with you, helping the process happen at exactly the right time.

SHOULD YOU EVER GIVE UP ON THE DREAM? No. One of the main reasons people do not accomplish their desires and dreams is giving up too soon. The key may be to allow the dream to evolve. If what you want is not unfolding easily, allow yourself to be flexible about the original idea of what you wanted. Often, the universe will give us exactly what we need and want and it will looking surprising different than what we imagined originally. Open your mind to new possibilities of how you can have what you want!

Remember that what you are seeking is also seeking you.

"If you are anything like me..." was created to help all of us find ways to cope and thrive with the challenges of life. Each month we will feature questions sent in by you, the readers, and Beth's ideas about what tools and skills to use to deal with the issues at hand. Email your life questions or challenges to milly@optonline.net and your anonymous question may be in next month's column.