"IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME....

A free advice column to think, feel, and be happier

IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME, YOU GET IMPATIENT OR FRUSTRATED when things aren't happening as fast as you want them to. Perhaps you have a new idea and you want it to happen NOW, or you have been working on something that you desire for a while and you are getting fed up with the "process". It's easy to consider giving up or throwing the adult version a a temper tantrum and feel like life isn't "fair".

It may be helpful to remember that creating new things in your life is like planting a seed. When you plant a seed, you don't return a day after and feel upset that it hasn't sprouted into a huge vegetable garden because you accept that the process of it's growth takes time and nourishment. You have faith that, as long as you are watering it and the conditions remain right, the seed will sprout when it is exactly ready. This is no different than how you understand that a baby takes 9 months to gestate safely. Being born before that time is considered "pre-mature" because is not optimal for the baby to be thriving and independent.

This is what is called the GESTATION TIME of the creation of all things. That is to say that all creations have a period of growing to be done on an unseen plane or a growth phrase before they come forth on the physical plane. How comforting it is to remember that it is faith and patience, not pushing and needing, that allow your creation to come through in the best time and way possible.

In order to grow the seeds of your life into vibrant, strong flowers that last and are born in exactly the right season, try these steps:

PREPARING THE FOUNDATION- Just as a seed needs the proper PH and soil conditions, so do the desires that you want to come forth in your life. You must prepare your life for what you desire to come forth and make sure that it is a good time for this desire to be in your life.

NOURISHING THE SEED- When you plant a seed, you are careful to water it and give it sunlight. Without the proper caretaking, the seed and the dream will die or barely flourish. This means paying daily attention and taking daily steps to cultivate your desire, not just thinking about it once in a while and hoping it will happen.

SPROUTING AND BLOOMING- You can plant a watermelon in the autumn and hope it comes up in winter, but it probably won't be able to grow in the cold. And even if it does, it most likely won't live long. So, too, is the sprouting of your dreams. Plant them at the right time and when they bloom, don't allow worry thoughts and negative thinking to block the sunlight from helping them thrive. Stand back and allow, pull the weeds of negative thinking and worry that the good "won't last", and enjoy the fruits of your patience. Remember that there may be a much wiser force that is co-creating with you, helping the process happen at exactly the right time.

SHOULD YOU EVER GIVE UP ON THE DREAM? No. One of the main reasons people do not accomplish their desires and dreams is giving up too soon. The key may be to allow the dream to evolve. If what you want is not unfolding easily, allow yourself to be flexible about the original idea of what you wanted. Often, the universe will give us exactly what we need and want and it will looking surprising different than what we imagined originally. Open your mind to new possibilities of how you can have what you want!

Remember that what you are seeking is also seeking you.

"If you are anything like me..." was created to help all of us find ways to cope and thrive with the challenges of life. Each month we will feature questions sent in by you, the readers, and Beth's ideas about what tools and skills to use to deal with the issues at hand. Email your life questions or challenges to milly@optonline.net and your anonymous question may be in next month's column.